It's All About Peace

Luke and I are not passionate about much. Mostly our passion is directed toward our God, family and friends. However, we are seriously passionate about money. We do not passionately pursue riches (not that we wouldn't love to have a cool million or so) but more so that we are passionate about being debt free. We are passionate about showing others the Peace that comes with knowing that your only master is God. I plan on this being a blog series, but time will tell. So, settle in, open your mind and think about your finances as I attempt to tell you why "It's All About Peace."
(Note: Please do not be offended by this post. If you recently discussed finances in your blog, asked us a question, etc. this is NOT aimed at you. Our Pastor has been doing a sermon series "How To Be Rich" and it has sparked a lot of thought. If you have asked questions or posted about money recently, please take this time to delve into my heart and understand how this spoiled "daddy's girl" learned how to be at peace with what she already has and how building riches in heaven surpasses my desire to build riches on this earth.)

As you read, please keep in mind that:
1. I am not a financial adviser
2. I didn't major in accounting/economics
3. I'm just a simple stay-at-home mom who passionately loves her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Luke and I are not completely debt free. We still have a mortgage. However, we do not have credit cards (literally, not even one), car payments, home equity loans or cash advances. Literally, all the debt we have is our mortgage. This isn't a bragging session about our family, it is simply factual. We are working fervently to pay off our mortgage so that we will not be in bondage to anyone.

Let me go further and explain my perception of bondage. Based on scripture, I see bondage as being tied to a person or possession that requires my service. Bondage keeps me from serving what I truly love and forces me to put other needs ahead of my Master's. I know this because of Proverbs 22:7 - "The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender." Servant? Wow. I do see Luke and I as servants. I want my only master to be God. However, because of the debt we owe to our mortgage company, we are their servants. Think about it like this....God wants His servants to do something radical, like move to Africa. However, because of ties to credit cards, mortgages, car payments, etc., the servant is unable to follow God's commands. Sure, you can sell the house, cars and "stuff" but most of the time American's are so far upside down in debt that they are unable to clear what they owe. Therefore, when God calls they are unable to answer. For me, that's not good enough. (On a side note, Onlyservants.blogspot.com does NOT fit into my above description. They pretty much rock.)

Okay, let's look at something more simple, because not everyone is moving to Africa. Let's look at something as simple as helping your neighbor. I think everyone can agree, Christian or not, that loving and helping others is what will make the difference in our world. Let's say that you are in line at Wal-mart. The lady in front of you is purchasing her groceries. She has nothing extravagant, just the necessities to feed and maintain her home; milk, bread, eggs, diapers. You see her 4 children. They look to all be ages 7ish and under. The cashier scans and bags her groceries. When totaled, it isn't an offensive amount, less than $100. She swipes a card - denied. She swipes a second card - denied. Finally, she digs into her purse and pulls out as much cash as she has. She's forced to put some groceries back and only get what she can pay for. You see the disgust on the cashiers face and feel the tug at your own heart. If only you could help, but that would mean less groceries for your own family.

Well, I was in line behind this woman. I was 6 or 7 months pregnant with our oldest child. I knew that I needed to help this woman, but I was powerless. As I watched her walk away, I was crushed for her. All she needed was an extra step, a little help, and she'd be fine. I knew that God was urging me, but I couldn't obey. I couldn't obey because I had another master. The master I was serving was college loans, credit cards and car payments. I knew that I couldn't allow those to supersede the Living God of my life. I knew I needed to change.

I challenge each person reading this to look at their checkbook. Look at your online statement. What God are you serving? Are they gods of debt? Could you respond at a moments notice and serve the Living God? Would it be financially detrimental for you to serve God when He calls? Are you bound by debt?

I want Christ to have every inch of me, my heart, my mind, my Spirit and my possessions. How much does Christ have of you?

Are you trying to serve two masters?

Dear Outsider Looking In,

This is an actual letter I wrote to a family member of mine, but I thought I would post it here just in case any of you are thinking the same thing. I know that many people who care about us are questioning our every move with Foster Care. Please read the previous post first, then this one. Hopefully, you can see why we need support. We're not asking for understanding, just support.
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Luke and I are entering this Foster Care thing with a lot of prayer and council from God. This wasn’t a flippant decision that we made overnight. It has been an evolving decision that we have made very slowly and with a lot of prayer, Bible reading and questions. Trust me, I’ve asked God so many times, “Are you sure, God? Do you really want us to do this?” Each time, God answers me with a resounding “YES!” I cannot tell you the number of times that God has confirmed for me (not counting Luke’s confirmations) that he wants us to give this a try. They are really random things looking in from the outside, but when I look at them, I can clearly see that it is God speaking to me.

The safety of our children is our #1 concern. I hope that you don’t think that we would ever place our kids in a situation that we thought was dangerous. I do not think that bringing in children ages birth-4yrs will be dangerous for them. The reason we have chosen to foster kids this young, is because we feel we can control the environment in our home with kids this age. We are purposefully NOT fostering older kids or teenagers because it might be dangerous for our kids. Also, Luke and I have said that if at any point we feel it is too much for our family, we will back out. We have complete control of the situation, and we get to choose which kids we will take and which ones we won’t. Social Services cannot force us to take any child. It’s all up to us when, who and what we allow into our home.

On the other hand, while I do not see it as dangerous, I do see it as risky. Let me explain how I see a difference. I perceive dangerous to mean life threatening, serious harm and exposure to things that will cause my children a great deal of pain. I don’t see how a child aged 0-4 could do this to us. If within the first day or so I see a child physically, mentally or emotionally harming one of our kids, I WILL call DSS and tell them to come remove the child from our home. However, with everything we’ve been trained on, this situation is unlikely.

Risk is something that Luke and I are willing to take. Recently I wrote on my blog (an online journal type thing) the following:

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I believe that God calls us to take risks. These risks are things that push us outside our comfort zone. Will bringing kids into our home who have been neglected, abused or abandoned be risky? You bet! Can God use those situations to His advantage to teach Luke, Me and the kids how to love people who are hard to love? You bet!

I know that this is hard to understand from where you are sitting. But I am asking you for your support. I don’t expect it to all make perfect sense to you, heck, somedays it doesn’t make perfect sense to me. I eagerly want your prayers. But I ask that you pray for God’s desires. I pray daily for God’s desires for my life. Instead of praying against us in this situation, please pray for us to have peace, protection, understanding and a heart of Jesus Christ. This will be hard enough just given the circumstances of what were facing. It will be unbearable without the prayer support of the people who love us most. Please pray for us. Because from this point on we know it is about being obedient to God. If we back out before we even begin, we’re being disobedient to God. That isn’t something I’m willing to do.